I’m curious…
How do you talk to yourself? Would you be happy for someone to speak to your kids in the same way? Do you often find yourself speaking to the ones you love the worst?
Self-talk has such a massive impact on your sense of wellbeing (and those around you) yet it’s easy to overlook when it’s not aligned with the type of parent or person we aspire to be.
Family and child counsellor, Jacintha Field, shares the importance of healing, self-reflection, and taking responsibility for one's actions as well as the power of self-opinion and setting boundaries for self-care in this week’s conversation. She highlights the significance of self-talk and the impact it has on our relationships, especially with our children.
And if you ever struggle with ‘people pleasing’ tendencies, Jacintha can set you straight.
“The only opinion that matters is the one you have of yourself”
If you’d like to find out more about Jacintha’s work or get in touch with her, you can find her at: www.happysoulskids.com
Main Takeaways
Teach children about self-awareness, standing in their power, and not taking on other people's opinions of them
Healing and self-reflection are essential for personal growth and becoming a better parent
Set boundaries and prioritise self-care to avoid burnout and be present for your children
Practice self-love and speak kindly to yourself, as it sets the standard for your relationships with others. Self-love and putting yourself first are essential for single moms to navigate the challenges of parenting
Supporting children through transitions requires patience, understanding, and being present for them
Effective communication in co-parenting can be helped with tools like Chat GPT to maintain kindness and clarity
Accepting change and growth in relationships is important, and it's essential to have boundaries and inner circles for support
Teaching children self-regulation techniques, such as breathwork, can help them manage their emotions.
Chapters
00:00 Teaching Children Self-Awareness
01:03 Personal Growth Journey
03:18 Taking Responsibility and Forgiveness
05:02 Helping Kids and Starting a Business
06:01 The Joy of Helping Kids
08:22 The Power of Self-Opinion
09:45 Setting Boundaries and Prioritising Self-Care
11:12 Starting the Practice of Self-Love
12:06 Being Honest with Yourself
13:30 The Importance of Self-Talk
15:20 Speaking Kindly to Ourselves and Others
16:14 Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Integration
19:40 Acknowledging and Supporting Children's Emotions
22:03 Creating a Safe Space for Children
23:27 Recognising the Impact of Daily Experiences on Children
25:23 Open Communication and Compassion
26:47 Avoiding Emotions and Procrastination
27:45 The Importance of Self-Love and Putting Yourself First
28:30 The Challenges and Growth of Being a Single Mum
29:11 Supporting Children Through Transitions
32:05 Co-Parenting and Communication
34:49 Navigating Dietary Restrictions in Co-Parenting
36:21 Using Chat GPT for Effective Communication
40:21 Accepting Change and Growth in Relationships
43:13 Navigating Relationships and Loss During Separation
44:12 The Importance of Boundaries and Inner Circles
48:48 Teaching Children Self-Regulation Techniques
Would you let someone to speak to your kids the way you talk to yourself?